Single Scene Newsletter 9-28-01 issue 60 Copyright Single Scene 2001 sing-@primenet.com! In this issue: * Singles Showcase rescheduled * Grief Support Series * National Singles News Briefs * October "dates" calendar (You can help create a singles community on the web --ask questions, offer advice, share concerns and experiences. The Arizona Singles Scene web site -- Azsinglescene.com -- has added a singles chat board for online web use by Arizona readers; just go to the web site and click on Talkshop.) * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * 20th annual Singles Showcase rescheduled Due to national events in September, the annual Singles Showcase has been rescheduled to Saturday, November 17. Sponsored by Central Singles, of the Central United Methodist Church in Phoenix, the Showcase is the largest singles information fair in the Valley, featuring dozens of singles groups, organizations, and singles-related businesses. Singles groups interested in participating should call the Central Singles Hotline at 602-258-1207. Christ-Church Lutheran Hosts Grief-Support Series For those who have lost a loved one, Christ-Church-Lutheran is offering a Grief Support Series for six consecutive Mondays 7-9pm beginning October 8, which will meet in Room 205 of the Christian Life Center, 3901 E. Indian School Rd. in Phoenix. For information call Betty Daly at 480-833-2265. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- ----------- National Singles News Briefs by Janet L. Jacobsen Students place a personal for the teacher! Reader's Digest reports that the ninth-grade students of a Eugene, Oregon, high school teacher thought she was leading too dull a life, so - after some prying questions about her likes and dislikes - they placed a personal ad for her, and even screened responses to two "keepers." Within a few months she and bachelor number two were engaged. The wedding was held in the high school auditorium. Majority of states have singles in Congress. According to a report by the American Association for Single People, 30 states and the District of Columbia have at least one member of Congress who is single. California has the most, with ten; New York is second with six. Big months for marriage. For 2000, the National Vital Statistics Report shows that June had the highest rate of weddings, followed very closely by August, and September. According to Bride's magazine, the average wedding has 186 guests and costs $18,874, including $7246 for the reception. Western Mexico singles cruise Jan. 6-13. The nonprofit, California-based group American Singles will host a Singles Cruise to Puerto Vallarta, Mazatlan, and Cabo San Lucas January 6-13, 2002, aboard Carnival Cruise Line's Elation. The early-bird price is $510 for an inside cabin, or $610 for an outside cabin, cruise-only, per-person, double-occupancy. Port charges are an additional $170. American Singles guarantees a roommate for each participant, and organizes parties and events during the cruise. For cruise information call John LaPoint at Travelin' Singles, 1-800-748-6662. E-mail manners. Reader's Digest says there are 8.7 billion e-mails sent daily in the U.S. and Canada. Long e-mails are only for friends; otherwise, keep it under one screen-length. All caps is interpreted to mean you're shouting. Sentences in only lower case are hard to read. Ignore chain mail, jokes and petitions; forward such things only when you know the receiver will be interested. Be sure you identify yourself in your e-mails! What are your hopes and dreams? One helpful technique for couples struggling with conflict is to take time out to share their dreams, expressing "unspoken yearnings" beneath the conflict. Relationships benefit from talking about hopes for the relationship, and looking for areas of flexibility and compromise, according to Drs. John and Julie Gottman, authors of The Relationship Cure. Future fathers. Asked how good a father they thought they would be, 81% of male high school seniors said "good, to very good." Another 10% said "fairly good," and 4% said "poor, to not so good." Another 6% didn't know. New single parents. According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, 30% of children adopted in 1999 were adopted by single women, and 2% were adopted by single men. Quotable. "Excellence is a habit. You are what you repeatedly do." Shaquille O' Neal. ----------------------------------------------------- SHARE WITH A FRIEND-- PLEASE FORWARD THIS ISSUE ! ---------------------------------------------- If you haven't already done so, please forward this issue to your single friends and associates. Thanks so much! <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>< OCTOBER DATING & MINGLING IDEAS! Mon., Oct. 1: ArtSalon - Lectures and discussions with guest artists. 7-9 pm, Burton Barr Central Library, Pulliam Auditorium, 1221 N. Central Ave., Phoenix. 602-262-4636. Tues., Oct. 2: Most Tuesdays there's a backgammon tournament at 7 pm at the George and Dragon pub, 4240 N. Central in Phoenix. Tourney entry is $10; bring your own board. 602-265-1992. Wed., Oct. 3: Adults' Night Out, Arizona Science Center, 7th St. & Washington, Phoenix. 5:30-9 p.m. Includes a special program or lecture. $5 admi., plus $2 for giant-screen film or planetarium. 602-716-2000. Thurs., Oct. 4: Art Walk (every Thurs.), Scottsdale galleries, 5th Ave. area. 7-9 p.m. 480-990-3939. Fri., Oct. 5 (also 6 & 7th): 29th annual Mark-Taylor Way Out West Oktoberfest, Tempe Beach Park, Mill Ave. & Rio Salado Parkway. Free. entertainment, activities, food. Benefits the Tempe Sister cities program./ 480-491-FEST. Sat., Oct. 6: Family Fishing Day, Kiwanis Lake, Kiwanis Park Recreation Center, 6111 S. All American Way, Tempe, 8 am to 12:30 pm. Includes breakfast and lunch; all equipment provided, license not necessary. $12 per person. Preregistration required. Register online: www.tempe.gov/pkrec/regform.htm. Info 480-350-5201. Sat., Oct. 6 (also 7th): 23rd Annual Folk Music Festival, Prescott. 800-266-7534. Sun., Oct. 7: "A Fool There Was," silent film, starring Theda Bara. Orpheum Theatre, 203 W. Adams, Phoenix. Begins 2:30 pm with organ concert; post-show discussion. Tickets $9 and $12. 602-262-7272. Mon., Oct. 8: Tempe Symphony Orchestra concert, Boyle Auditorium, McClintock High School, 7:30 pm. Free. 480-350-5287. Tues., Oct. 9: Outdoor Cooking workshop. Pyle Adult Center, 655 E. Southern Ave., Tempe, sponsored by Tempe Parks. 7-9 pm. $6. 480-350-5200. Wed., Oct. 10: 7 p.m., every Wednesday night fun skate for adults, El Dorado Park, 2311 N. Miller Rd., Scottsdale. Winds thru city. Free. 480-942-4156. Thurs., Oct. 11 (to 28th): Arizona State Fair, 19th Ave. & McDowell, Phx. THE entertainment bargain of the year. Opening day opens 5 pm; weekdays noon, weekends, 10 a.m. Admission $8.50 includes all exhibits, grandstand events, and nonreserved seating at Coliseum concerts. 602-252-6771. Fri., Oct. 12: Sneak away from work a little early for a "twilight" movie and a pizza after. Sat., Oct. 13: 16th annual Oktoberfest, with live bands, activities, German beer and food. Pinetop-Lakeside, eastern Arizona. 800-573-4031. Sun., Oct. 14 (also Sat., 13th): Railfair 2001, McCormick Stillman Railroad Park, Scottsdale, 10 am - 5 pm. Highlights exhibitors and model train clubs. 480-312-2312. Hispanic Festival, Tempe Community Complex, sw corner, Southern & Rural. Music, dance, arts & crafts, food. 1-8 pm. Free. 480-350-2739. Mon., Oct. 15: Every Wed., 7-10 pm, coffee house with performers and a jam session, Encanto Park Clubhouse, Phoenix. 602-261-8993. Tues., Oct. 16: Pay-One-Price Day, Arizona State Fair, 19th Ave. & McDowell, Phx. Opens weekdays noon, weekends, 10 a.m. Admission $8.50 includes all exhibits and nonreserved seating at Coliseum concerts. Pay-one-price fee covers all midway rides. (Also 18, 23, 25, & 28.) 602-252-6771. Wed., Oct. 17: Still hot enough to merit ice cream. Share an unbelievably giant sundae or banana split at a soda fountain or ice cream shoppe. Thurs., Oct. 18: Grand opening and reception, "The Chinese Experience in Phoenix," 5 pm, Phoenix Museum of History. 602-252-2734. Western ArtWalk Weekend, 6-9pm, Scottsdale Gallery District, Main Street & Marshall Way and surrounding, Scottsdale. Artist demo's. Entertainment. Free. 480-990-3939. Fri., Oct. 19: Whichever side of town you're always in, explore the other side. Dinner out, walk at a mall or park. Sat., Oct. 20 (also 21): Annual Fall Plant Sale Festival, Desert Botanical Garden, 1201 N. Galvin Parkway, Phx. 9 am to 5 pm. Free. 480-941-1225. Sun., Oct. 21: free admission day at the Pueblo Grande Museum, 4619 E. Washington, Phoenix, on southwest archeology and culture. 1-4:45 Sunday. 602-495-0901. Mon., Oct. 22: Monster Truck Night, grandstand, Arizona State Fair, 19th Ave. & McDowell, Phx. THE entertainment bargain of the year. (Fair thru Oct. 28.) Opens weekdays noon, weekends, 10 a.m. Admission $8.50 includes all exhibits, grandstand events, and nonreserved seating at Coliseum concerts. 602-252-6771. Tues., Oct. 23: Poetry in the Park, Encanto Park Clubhouse, Phoenix. 7:30-10 p.m. 602-261-8993. Wed., Oct. 24: Royal Scottish Country Dancing, 7 pm, Scottsdale Senior Center, Civic Center & 2nd Ave. Free. 480-834-5662. Newcomers welcome. Thurs., Oct. 25: Thursdays are free night at Phoenix Art Museum (donation appreciated). 36th Annual Cowboy Artists of America exhibition (Oct. 20 thru Nov. 18). Til 9 p.m. 1625 N. Central. 602-257-1880. Fri., Oct. 26: The weather is cooling off! Meet for dinner at a restaurant with outdoor dining. Sat., Oct. 27 (also 28th): Red! Hot! Alive!, new multicultural music & dance festival, Heard Museum, 2301 N. Central, Phx. 9:30 - 5. Food, demonstrations, art. $7. 602-252-8840. Hogs in Heat, all-you-can-eat barbecue & dance, Rock Springs Cafe, Black Canyon City (exit 242, I-17 n. of Phx.). 4 pm-? 623-374-5794. Sun., Oct. 28 (also Sat., 27th): Arizona Fall League baseball game and campout, Scottsdale Stadium. Pumpkin carving, costume parade, cookout, games, storytelling. $28 each includes dinner and breakfast. $3 game ticket. 480-312-2580. Mon., Oct. 29: "Geology in Your Backyard," visiting professor series, 7 pm, Glendale Public Library, 5959 W. Brown St., Glendale. Free. 623-930-3550. Tues., Oct. 30: Basic Backpacking workshop. Pyle Adult Center, 655 E. Southern Ave., Tempe, sponsored by Tempe Parks. 7-9 pm. $6. 480-350-5200. Wed., Oct. 31 is Halloween. Events all around, including the annual Halloween Carnival, Eldorado Ballfields, 1909 N. Miller Rd., Scottsdale, 6 - 9 pm. 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