Singles Scene Newsletter 11-12-00 issue 41 sing-@primenet.com! In this issue: * When meeting people, some restrictions apply! * Tidbit -- You may hear from Topica * Advice from Aunt Janet-- Protect yourself with a PO box! * Web site of the Week * All Singles Dance Schedule * Arizona Date Ideas for Nov. 12-22 * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Some restrictions apply by Janet L. Jacobsen Personal ads can meet a variety of needs. When you're the new kid in town, or newly available, they can help you meet lots of interesting people and kick your social life into high gear. On the other hand, when your social life is chugging along but not heading in the right direction, the carefully worded personal ad can help you meet the one who's hard to find in a crowd. But to reach these different goals requires different strategies for your ad and greeting. When your goal is to meet a lot of new people, make your ad as broad as possible. Tell the essentials about yourself, of course (age, height/weight are MUSTS), and give plenty of other information about YOU. And put in only those restrictions that are absolute musts (smoker/nonsmoker is usually one). When you're looking to make a lot of new friends, their hair color, music preferences, and favorite sports are not particularly important; give the information about yourself without making it a restriction on others. You can say "You'll find me at the opera, in the library, and playing chess" without saying "Intellectuals only!" On the other hand, your goal may be to narrow down the search and what you want is not so much lots of replies as one reply from a potential Ms./Mr. Right. You STILL need to give lots of information about yourself, but you can do more to limit who replies. For instance, "Christian parent with old time family values seeks same." Or "...wants to meet '60s style liberal with jazz collection and motorcycle." Or "Must love dogs, backpacking, and beards." The more restrictions you put on who can answer your ad, the fewer replies you're likely to get. But that could be just the strategy you want. ----------TIDBIT------- You May Hear From Topica! As you might have realized from our list address, we use the free services of a company called Topica to host this list. Topica offers a broad range of e-services, including tools such as searchable archives and "vacation hold," that help you manage your email list subscriptions. They have informed us that soon Topica will be sending you a message directly, highlighting the tools and content available on their site (at ). They provide a wonderful service to us and we hope you'll be patient -- even interested ! -- in their message, which will help Topica continue to offer the great free list hosting service that we enjoy. Thanks! * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Advice from Aunt Janet -- Protect yourself with a PO box If you are answering personal ads through publications, or meeting people through the Internet, you should consider getting a post office box, whether at the official PO or a commercial site. That way, if you want to send or receive photos, gifts, the first draft of your novel, whatever, to the interesting person you've been communicating with but haven't met yet, you don't have to give your home address. This is a VERY good strategy with any romance, or even friendship, where you've never actually met the person, ESPECIALLY if you have no mutual friends or acquaintances to vouch for the other person. Remember, the anonymous person is just that -- and could be ANYONE. If you've been thinking of giving an unknown person your home address-- think again, and make it a mail box instead. ************************* Web Site of the Week Do you like to know how other folks are thinking? Get the latest scoop from public opinion polls at www.pollingreport.com. Politics, social trends, general public opinion -- great tidbits for starting conversations! ******************** ALL SINGLES DANCE SCHEDULE: November 17 Mountain Shadows, 5641 E. Lincoln Dr., Paradise Valley November 24 Mountain Shadows, 5641 E. Lincoln Dr., Paradise Valley December 1 Scottsdale Radisson, 7171 N. Scottsdale Rd. Dance admission is $8. Call 480-949-8076 for more info or see *********************** SHARE WITH A FRIEND-- PLEASE FORWARD THIS ISSUE ! ---------------------------------------------- If you haven't already done so, please forward this issue to your single friends and associates. Thanks so much *********************** November Date Ideas Sun., Nov. 12: 12th semi-annual Way Out West Bird Expo, 9 am to 4 pm, Arizona State Fairgrounds, 19th Ave. & McDowell, Phx. Admission $6; 602-973-9282. Mon., Nov. 13: Cold weather means a good night to go out for coffee and dessert. For super casual, make it a coffee bar or bookstore. Or upscale it to a nice restaurant. Linger over coffee. Tues., Nov. 14: Most Tuesdays there's a backgammon tournament at 7 pm at the George and Dragon pub, 4240 N. Central in Phoenix. Tourney entry is $10; bring your own board. 602-265-1992. Wed., Nov. 15: 1st & 3rd Wed., Glendale Library, 5959 W. Brown, hosts a nonsmoking "coffeehouse" featuring live entertainment, 7 pm in the auditorium. 623-930-3556. Thurs., Nov. 16: Evening Antique Walk, downtown Glendale. 623-435-0556. Fri., Nov. 17: Thru 19, Desert Fall Festival, Scottsdale Pavilions, Pima & Indian Bend. Live entertainment, food, arts and crafts. Free 480-837-5637. Sat., Nov. 18: Leonids meteor shower. Thru Sun., Devonshire Renaissance Faire, Los Olivos Park, 28th St. & Devonshire, Phx. 10 am to 5 pm. $3. 602-256-3130. Sun., Nov. 19: See Clara Bow star in the original silent film "It" at the Orpheum Theatre, 203 W. Adams, Phoenix. 2:30 pm. Includes a Wurlitzer organ concert. $9-12. 602-262-7272. Every Sunday, free admission day at the Pueblo Grande Museum, 4619 E. Washington, Phoenix, on southwest archeology and culture. 1-4:45 Sunday. 602-495-0901. Mon., Nov. 20: Ready for winter, or fall? Drive to Prescott, or thereabouts, for dinner. Note how the "season" changes along the way. Tues., Nov. 21: Play cards over coffee and cinnamon rolls. Wed., Nov. 22: Every Wed., 7-10 pm, coffee house with performers and a jam session, Encanto Park Clubhouse, Phoenix. 602-261-8993. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * It doesn't have to be an ordeal to meet people, if you know the right conversational skills. (YES, it's a commercial announcement ....) Improve your MEETING PEOPLE skills with the HOW TO MEET PEOPLE audiocassette by Janet Jacobsen, editor of Single Scene. You'll learn **How to overcome your fears **Three sure-fire meeting methods **Where to find interesting people **Simple, fun techniques to improve your social life NOW. 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