Single Scene Newsletter 2-26-03 Issue 77 Copyright Single Scene 2003 http://www.azsinglescene.com sing-@primenet.com! IN THIS ISSUE: * University study on dating needs YOUR views * Lunch Date "How-To’s" -- Part II * March daily ideas for dating and mingling! ------------------------------- University study wants YOUR thoughts on dating! Dr. Paul Mongeau of Arizona State University would appreciate YOUR assistance in his research on dating. Just FORWARD this email to sing-@primenet.com WITH YOUR RESPONSES to any or all of the following three open-ended questions concerning dating. There are no right or wrong answers. We are interested only in your opinions. (We'll share the research results in a future newsletter. You can get more information about this survey at the end of this newsletter.) 1. One of the things that scholars don’t agree on is what constitutes a date. Please indicate what you feel are the most important characteristics of a date. 2. We would like to ask you a question closely related to the first one. Specifically, what differentiates a date from going out with a friend? 3. Another of the things that we are interested in is the reasons that people have for going on a first date. Consider the most recent time that you went out on a first date with a particular person. List as many reasons as you can remember for going out on that date. There are two more things it would help us to know: The year you were born: Whether you are male or female: To insure your privacy, do not include your name in this survey; we will remove email addresses from all responses. Please FORWARD this email WITH YOUR RESPONSES to sing-@primenet.com. Thanks for participating in this survey! (P.S. Feel free to forward this newsletter to a single friend you think would be interested in responding to this survey.) --------------------------------------------------- LUNCH DATE How-To’s: Timing is Everything by Janet Jacobsen Last issue we talked about the advantages of a lunch date and how to pick a good lunch date location. This issue let's explore the details of timing for a good lunch date. It may be that neither of you have control of your allotted lunch time (and if your lunch hours aren’t in sync, forget it), but if possible, schedule your date for either side of the normal noon-to-one madness. Try 11:45 or 1:15. You’ll feel less rushed, and the service will probably be better. No matter when you go, be conscious of the time. It’s fine if neither of you have to hurry back, but if you don’t and your date does, show your concern for their needs. Saying, "Oh, you can be a little late" essentially means that you’re not much concerned about the consequences for them. Of course, week days aren’t the only days people eat lunch. In fact, if you’re inclined to spend the money a dinner would cost, then consider a Sunday brunch, usually offered at hotels and resorts. They’re generally more expensive than the typical lunch, but about the same as a moderate-to-expensive dinner, depending on where you go. And for that you get an absolutely staggering choice of food, usually of high quality, and you can take hours to eat it. (Most are buffet style and run from about 10:30 a.m. to 2 p.m.) Again, best to make reservations. Women who haven’t had a lot of practice asking a man out should find a lunch date relatively easy to handle. "Let’s get together for lunch one of these days. How about Tuesday?" seems less threatening than "Would you like to go out to dinner with me Tuesday?" (And remember, who asketh, payeth.) In fact a lunch date is less threatening, less time, less money, less demanding, but just as good an opportunity to get acquainted, which, after all, is what dating is all about. ------------------------------------------------ For help in adjusting to and even enjoying single life, visit our website at http://divorcerecovery101.com. YOU CAN HELP! We have no budget to advertise our singles' Internet information, maintained solely to help newly divorced and widowed people. Newly singled people will find out about it and get help from them only if readers like you (word of mouth) tell them about the sites and newsletters. Next time you attend a support group, class, seminar, singles event etc. please do both us and them a favor by recommending and telling them about these sites, newsletters, and courses. Remind them they are all totally FREE. ------------------------------------------------ March Dating & Mingling Ideas: Sat., March 1 (and Sun.): 45th annual Heard Museum Guild Indian Fair & Market, 2301 N. Central Ave., Phoenix. Celebrated artisans, demonstrations, music. $10. 602-252-8848. Sun. March 2: "Sunday A'Fair," live entertainment, food, arts & crafts. Free. Sundays 12-4:30 p.m. Scottsdale Civic Center Mall, sponsored by the Scottsdale Center for the Arts, 7380 E. 2nd St., Scottsdale. 480-994-ARTS. (Also March 9 & 30). Mon., March 3: Chess night at Borders Books & Music, Biltmore Fashion Park, 24th St. & Camelback, Phx. 7 p.m. Watch; play! 602-957-6660. Tues., March 4: Out to Lunch Concert Series, Mesa Centennial Hall Plaza, 201 N. Center St. Tuesdays noon to 1 pm thru March. Free, 480-644-5116. Wed., March 5: Adults' Night Out, Arizona Science Center, 7th St. & Washington, Phoenix. 5:30-9 p.m. Includes a special program or lecture. $8 adm., plus $2 for giant-screen film or planetarium. 602-716-2000. Thurs., March 6: "Masterworks from El Greco to Picasso in The Phillips Collection" continues at the Phoenix Art Museum, 1625 N. Central Ave. Billed as "the most important exhibition ever mounted in Arizona." $16 tickets are for timed and dated entry. Advance reservations are recommended through Ticketmaster, or in person at the Museum. Museum info 602-257-1880. Fri., March 7: 8th annual Vin Arte, Wine Masterpieces Tasting & Wine Sale, Phoenix Art Museum, 1625 N. Central Ave. More than 40 vintners will showcase various wines from around the world. $45 per person in advance, $50 day of event. 602-307-2060. Sat., March 8 (& Sun.): Civil War reinactment, Picacho Peak State Park, off I-10 between Phoenix and Tucson. Info, 602-542-4174 or www.azstateparks.com Sun., March 9: Az. Renaissance Festival, Apache Junction, just past Gold Canyon Golf Resort east of Phoenix on US 60. 12 stages of continuous entertainment. $16 admission. 520-463-2700. (Sat. & Sun. thru March 23). Mon., March 10: Women's division Scottsdale Blues Rugby Club practice and play 7:30 p.m. Arcadia High School, 4703 E. Indian School. Hotline: 602-407-5555. (Mondays & Wednesdays). Tues., March 11: Movie Tuesdays movie discussion series, every Tuesday, 5:30-7 p.m. Pulliam Auditorium, Burton Barr Central Library, 1221 N. Central, Phoenix. Free. 602-262-4636. Wed., March 12: Every Wed., 7-10 pm, coffee house with performers and a jam session, Encanto Park Clubhouse, Phoenix. 602-261-8993. Thurs., March 13 (thru Sun.): National Festival of the West, WestWorld, 16601 N. Pima Rd., Scottsdale, celebrates all things western; special focus this year on cowboy balladeers. $12. Info 602-996-4387. Fri., March 14 (thru Sun.): 33rd annual Scottsdale Arts Festival, Scottsdale Center for the Arts, 7380 E. 2nd St., Scottsdale. 10 am to 6 pm (5 pm Sun.) see hundreds of artists and three stages of entertainment. $6. 480-994-2787. Sat., March 15 (& Sun.): 9th annual Arizona Aloha Festival, ASU Downtown Center, 7th St. & Monroe, Phoenix. Entertainment, food and merchandise from Hawaii and the Pacific islands. Free. 602-262-5071. Sun., March 16: Sundays, Adobe Mountain Railroad Museum and Desert Railroad Park, 23280 N. 43rd Ave., Phoenix. Free rides in mini-steam trains. 12-5 pm. Free (donations appreciated). 623-386-5737. Mon., March 17: Movie Night at Mickey's Hangover. The bar features free popcorn and a movie at 9 p.m. Mondays. 4310 N. Brown, Scottsdale. 480-425-0111. Tues., March 18: Every Tues., East Coast Swing lessons, 9 pm-12:30 am, Bash on Ash, 230 W. Fifth St., Tempe. $5. 480-966-8200. Wed., March 19: Royal Scottish Country Dancing, 7 pm, Scottsdale Senior Center, Civic Center & 2nd Ave. Free. 480-834-5662. Newcomers welcome. Thurs., March 20: Art Walk (every Thurs.), Scottsdale galleries, 5th Ave. area. 7-9 p.m. 480-990-3939. Fri., March 21: Every Fri., open dancing to a variety of music, 9:15 p.m. to midnight. Dance lessons 7:30-9:15. $5 Paragon Dance Center, 3029 N. Alma School, Chandler. 480-777-8877. Sat., March 22 (& Sun.): Annual Folk Traditions Festival, 10 am to 6 pm, Encanto Park Clubhouse, 2605 N. 15th Ave., Phoenix. Over 200 performers, showcasing bluegrass, folks, blues, Celtic and country music. Free. 602-261-8993. Sun., March 23: Every Sunday, free admission day at the Pueblo Grande Museum, 4619 E. Washington, Phoenix, on southwest archeology and culture. 1-4:45 Sunday. 602-495-0901. Mon., March 24: Don't miss Spring Training -- great baseball, low price! Get Cactus League baseball info at 480-496-6700. Tues., March 25: Poetry in the Park, Encanto Park Clubhouse, 2605 N. 15th Ave., Phoenix. 7-9:30 p.m. Free. 602-262-6412. Wed., March 26: Acoustic Jam Session for amateurs. 7 p.m., large meeting room, Glendale Public Library, 5959 W. Brown St. Free. 623-930-3537. Thurs., March 27: Every Thurs., "Sport Compact Only" drag racing, Firebird International Raceway, 20000 S. Maricopa Rd., Chandler, 7 p.m. $10. $5 parking. 602-268-0200. Fri., March 28: Astronomy Open House, Bateman Physical Science Bldg., H-wing roof (5th floor), ASU. 8-10 p.m. Free. Telescopic views. 480-727-7010. Sat., March 29: Hogs in Heat, all-you-can-eat barbecue & dance, Rock Springs Cafe, Black Canyon City (exit 242, I-17 n. of Phx.). 4 pm-? 623-374-5794. Sun., March 30: Jester'z Improv Comedy Show, interactive family entertainment. 8 p.m. 7117 E. McDowell, Papago Plaza, Scottsdale. $10. 480-423-0120. Mon., March 31: It's Spring! The heat is coming! Quick! 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COMPLETING THIS SURVEY INDICATES YOUR CONSENT TO PARTICIPATE IN THIS PROJECT. If you have any questions about this research, feel free to contact the project director, Dr. Paul Mongeau. Dr. Mongeau can be reached at: Hugh Downs School of Human Communication, Arizona State University, Tempe, AZ 85287 or phone 480.965.3773 or email Paul.M-@ASU.edu. +++++++++++++++++++++++ SHARE WITH A FRIEND-- PLEASE FORWARD THIS ISSUE ! If you haven't already done so, please forward this issue to your single friends and associates. Thanks so much!