Singles Scene Newsletter 8-30-00 issue 34 sing-@primenet.com! In this issue: * Is tv ruining your relationships? * Advice from Aunt Janet * Singles Web site of the Week * All Singles Dance Schedule * Arizona Date Ideas for Aug. 31 to Sept 11. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Is television ruining your dating relationships? by Janet L. Jacobsen Watching television may be fine when you're alone and you're too exhausted to move, but it's death on a date (and in a relationship). Some people feel that having reached the stage where they stay home together and watch tv is a new height in dating, usually related to the opportunity for serious cuddling on the couch. And if you're really focused on each other and not on the tube, probably no problem. But when it means sitting parallel in a darkened room pointed at a box of sound and light, you're not exactly building the romance. After all, the point of dating is to get to know each other. According to one school of counselling, called reality therapy, activities where you are mentally involved and where you interact with each other do the most to help you get acquainted, and to keep your relationship exciting. Activities where you're just observers do the least (next to not being around each other at all) to help you strengthen your relationship. Now if you watch a television program and then shut the tube off and have a lively debate, you've used your time well. Even going out to a movie doesn't do much for the relationship if you don't really interact with each other too. But generally the trip to and from the theatre gives you time for conversation. An occasional hour or two of television won't ruin your relationship, of course, but it won't add much either. When people start complaining about "never doing anything together any more," or that the relationship has gotten in a rut is generally not too long after their dating "rises" to the point of spending time together with the tv. If tv or movies are all you can think of to do on most dates, better quit dating for a while and spend your time getting some real interests in your life. Start a list of new places you'd like to go in your area, and new things you'd like to try. If you're in a relationship, make the list together. And then get busy! ************************ Singles Site of the Week - Need more advice on how to be romantic? Check out www.theromantic.com, where columnist Michael Webb shares his very useful tips. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Advice from Aunt Janet -- Guys, if you REALLY want to understand where a lot of women (I won't say all) are coming from, here's the plan: Go to the public library, to the current magazine section, and read, cover to cover, ESPECIALLY the ads, the following magazines: Seventeen, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping. In that order. Suddenly you will be wise beyond your years. ************************* ALL SINGLES DANCE SCHEDULE: 1 Mountain Shadows, 5641 E. Lincoln Dr., Paradise Valley 8 Scottsdale Radisson, 7171 N. Scottsdale Rd., Scottsdale, Ladies' Night. Ladies' admission $3.50 15 Scottsdale Radisson, 7171 N. Scottsdale Rd., Scottsdale 22 Mountain Shadows, 5641 E. Lincoln Dr., Paradise Valley 29 Mountain Shadows, 5641 E. Lincoln Dr., Paradise Valley Dance admission is $7 before 9 pm, $8 after 9. Call 480-949-8076 (press 1) for more info or see *********************** DATE IDEAS Thurs., Aug. 31: Standup comedy night (every Thurs.), 8 p.m., Star Theatre, 7111 E. McDowell, Scottsdale. $4, reservations required. 480-423-0120. Fri. 1st: The weather's still hot. Good night to have dinner at a diner and split a banana split. Sat. 2nd: Most Saturday nights: Centerpoint, Mill & University, downtown Tempe. 6-9 pm., live music, magicians and other entertainment. Free. 480-947-3500. Sun. 3rd: Sunnyslope Rock Garden, 10023 N. 13th Pl., Phoenix. Sculptures made of broken china, rocks & trinkets. 1-5 p.m. Free. 602-997-4627. Mon. 4th: 7 pm, chess night at Borders Books & Music, Biltmore Fashion Park, 24th St. & Camelback, Phx. Watch; play! 602-957-6660. Tues. 5th: Most Tuesdays there's a backgammon tournament at 7 pm at the George and Dragon pub, 4240 N. Central in Phoenix. Tourney entry is $10; bring your own board. 602-265-1992. Wed. 6th: Adults' Night Out, Arizona Science Center, 7th St. & Washington, Phoenix. 5:30-9 p.m. Includes a special program or lecture. $5 adm.., plus $2 for giant-screen film or planetarium. 602-716-2000. Thurs. 7th: Art Walk (every Thurs.), Scottsdale galleries, 5th Ave. area. 7-9 p.m. 480-990-3939. Fri. 8th: Every Fri., Rodders Fellowship Club classic car "Friday Night Cruise-In", parking lot, ne corner Baseline & Stapley Dr. in Mesa. Begins 6 pm. Sat. 9th: Bingo, Barbecue & Barn Dance, Washington Adult Center, 2240 W. Citrus Way, sponsored by Phoenix Parks. Bingo 5 pm, barbecue 6 pm, barn dance 7-10 pm. $10 at the door; dance $3. 602-262-6971. Sun. 10th: Every Sunday, free admission day at the Pueblo Grande Museum, 4619 E. Washington, Phoenix, on southwest archeology and culture. 1-4:45 Sunday. 602-495-0901. Mon. 11th: Check out the new crowd at the University -- stroll around in downtown Tempe. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * It doesn't have to be an ordeal to meet people, if you know the right conversational skills. (YES, it's a commercial announcement ....) Improve your MEETING PEOPLE skills with the HOW TO MEET PEOPLE audiocassette by Janet Jacobsen, editor of Single Scene. You'll learn **How to overcome your fears **Three sure-fire meeting methods **Where to find interesting people **Simple, fun techniques to improve your social life NOW. To order HOW TO MEET PEOPLE, send $9.95 (first class postage & handling included) to Interpersonal Enterprises Inc. Box 6243 Dept. E Scottsdale AZ 85261-6243. Satisfaction Guaranteed ************************** SHARE WITH A FRIEND-- PLEASE FORWARD THIS ISSUE ! ---------------------------------------------- If you haven't already done so, please forward this issue to your single friends and associates. Thanks so much! 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