How other singles see it
copyright 1997 by Janet L. Jacobsen
Were zooming toward a new decade, a new century, and a new millennium the most modern of modern times, wouldnt you say? But are we really so "modern" in our thinking about meeting people and dating?
At a recent singles dance we invited people to fill out short questionnaires on various singles issues. One of the questionnaires focused on dating "roles."
86% of the women said, no, dont give your number to someone you dont want to date. (Just 5% said yes, and 9% were undecided.) None of the fellows were undecided, but 16% of them said its ok to give your phone number to a person you dont want to date. (84% of the guys said no.)
Yes, said 91% of the ladies, but 9% were undecided. The men were 100% in favor of women asking men to dance.
Yes, said 64% of the ladies, but 23% said no and 14% were undecided. For the men, 100% want women to ask men for their phone numbers.
Among the women, 73% said yes, but 18% said no, and 9% were undecided. The men were 100% in favor of the woman asking for a date.
While 41% of the women said yes, 36% said no, and 23% were undecided. For the men, 89% said a woman can ask a man for a date even if she hasnt already dated him; just 5% said no and 5% were undecided.
Among the women, 64% agreed that its best to date one person at a time, though 13% disagreed and 13% were undecided. The men were less sure, however. 32% were undecided, 26% said no, its not true that we should date on person at a time. But 42% favored "one person" dating.
Our poll would indicate that men are a lot more "liberal" about dating roles than women are; they apparently appreciate not being stuck with all the responsibility for getting a relationship going.
The irony is that when I question women about why they dont ask men to dance or ask them out, nearly always they say, "Because men dont like it." Wrong. Wrong. They like it; they love it.
Does that mean every man will want to date every woman who asks him? Nope. The gals face the same possibility of rejection that men face. But rest assured ladies that you wont get a no just because you asked.