Animal trainers have learned a thing or two that can help improve your two-legged relationships as well, according to author Amy Sutherland's book "What Shamu Taught Me about Life, Love and Marriage."

1. Accept that some things may never change. 2. Ignore the behavior you don't want. 3. Compliment the behavior you DO want. 4. Don't blame yourself when he/she behaves badly. 5. Pick your moments wisely. 6. Keep your partner happy. (Positive feedback works best.)

Should Facebook show your relationship status?

According to recent articles, listing your relationship status on Facebook is fine when you're single, but posting your "couple" status can be tricky. Some college students say the relationship is only "official" if it's on your Facebook page, but others say "that's stupid." Also, as "Wired" magazine points out, getting your "ex" to delist your relationship can be just one more thing that makes breaking up hard (or at least a pain) to do.

How to stay friends after the break-up.

Wonder how some people can stay friends with previous romantic partners, while others just don't? Several studies by communication scholars have found a key predictor of whether people can be friends after a breakup: People who were actually friends before the romance are much more likely to become friends again.

Shop for your dating service before you shop for a date.

Recently "USA Weekend" magazine reported that consumer complaints about dating services are on the rise, up 73% from 2005 to 2006, and higher in '07. The most common complaint for online sites: difficult-to-understand membership and cancellation fees. For matchmakers: high-pressure sales tactics and unrealistic promises. To avoid being a "dating dupe," shop around -- don't fall for the hype or pick the first service that sounds good. Don't give in to "today only" price pressure. Do your homework to compare policies and prices. Talk to real people who have used the service. Check for complaints with the Better Business Bureau (bbb.org). Know what is required to opt out if you aren't happy with the service.

How to be more extroverted.

Being more extroverted generally means being happier, "Vitality" magazine reports. Practice these pointers: When people tell funny stories, respond out loud. Share your opinions with others (nicely). Ask questions in meetings or classes. At gatherings, ask strangers a question or two.

Safe at home.

"Vitality" magazine reports that certain important papers shouldn't be in a bank safe-deposit box because they may be difficult for your family to access if something happens to you. Keep birth certificates, wills, trust documents and security records in a locked fireproof safe at home. (You can buy a small one at an office supply store.) Be sure a family member or close friend knows how to access it.

Most homes are "No Smoking."

The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that at least 72% of American households do not allow smoking in the home. That's up from 43% in 1992.

Quotable.

"Age does not protect you from love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age." Jeanne Moreau.

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